The Yellow Doll

I know I haven’t wrote on this blog on a while but today I discovered something perplexing. I think that which I discovered I feel is worth sharing on this blog.

Today my babies spent time with my sister while I attended class. When i came to pick them up they were watching the Princess and the frog (important note: the first black Disney Princess) and my daughter had in her hand a Barbie toy from McDonald’s. After sitting down to enjoy a little of the movie with my little ones my sister informed me she had something to say about my daughter.

She said, “your daughter doesn’t like blac.k dolls. She cried when they gave her a black doll su McDonald’s today.”

I laughed and told her she was lying.  After all my daughter has black dolls,  I go to an HBCU, I read books about this stuff there’s no way my daughter thinks like this. So,  I asked my daughter and she said, “I don’t like black dolls I want the yellow doll. .. yellow dolls are cute. ”

My little 4 year old beautiful brown skin baby girl, denying her own. How is this possible? She doesn’t even attend a school where she’s a minority. Up until recently she didn’t know the difference between black and white (race). Maybe that’s it, maybe that’s why. Yet I’ve never told her nor lead her to believe that either tone was better than the other.

So, asked her does she think her skin, my skin and my sister’s skin is cute. She replied yes to all. So, I’m at a loss for words. How do I address this? After all the psychology classes I’ve taken when the issue is addressed in studies and videos; the classes I’ve taken they delve into ethnicity and race yet none I thought would hit my home like this. My daughter now is my live example of the little girls in the video that choose the lighter doll over the black one.

I don’t know what hurts more, her discovering race or her denying her own after the fact. In my prefect world she’d be color blind to race still.

How ironic considering all the buzz in the media right now, right?

To be continued. ..

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2 comments

  1. Scott Mitchell · August 23, 2014

    Very interesting. Well, she’s fortunate to have you as her mother as you’re a great one. My one little thought is since it’s a toy, maybe it’s not related to people in her mind. As some girls would want one with a blue dress rather than a pink one. I obviously don’t know, but it was just a thought. It is possible that such things are a sign of acceptance of others rather than denial of self. You’re doing the right thing to consider the topic important though.

    Not sure if you’re aware of my physical trait preferences, but my little blond daughter just met my love for the first time and she’s the darkest shade of black. I didn’t even inform my daughter of this before hand and I was so pleased that she showed no sign of surprise and they were hugging etc. (For me it was a big deal because my daughter always lived in a small mostly all-white town lol)

    One love!

    • Ms. Me · August 24, 2014

      True maybe it doesn’t have anything to do with people hopefully it doesn’t.

      Thank you! I’m honored that you think I’m a great mother. 😊

      And that’s awesome that you’re daughter was accepting without hesitation; it’s always a great feeling in any circumstance when your child is excepting of your significant other. On another note, I didn’t know you had a child, aw 😀!

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